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How Do I Get My Boyfriend to Talk About His Feelings?

He doesn’t talk very much about his feelings, instead, he likes to show me how he feels through his actions.

The problem is that I also have difficulty communicating my feelings at times. As long as I’m paying attention, it works, but sometimes I’m afraid I’ll miss something or I’ll interpret his actions the wrong way.

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Can I Ask My Long-Distance Guy to Send Me an Airline Ticket?

Remember when you were a teen and you told your friend, “you fly, I’ll buy”? They grabbed the burgers and fries so you didn’t have to get your lazy bones off the couch, but for their effort, you paid for the fast-food run.

This is the grown-up version of that. You fly, he buys—literally.

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