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How to Date a Short Guy

There probably is a real number where yeah, height is a deal-breaker for you. That’s your prerogative; it’s fine to own that. However, this is said with some reluctance… Think of Peter Dinklage’s crash-worthiness. There’s always room for exceptions.

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I found my boyfriend’s sex tape

Are we entitled to our private sexual thoughts, strolls down memory lane, histories and fantasies when we’re coupled? Or is that cheating? Do we shred the sex tape or keep that memento? Read more…

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Why Can’t I Get Past Date #1?

Sometimes when we don’t get the second date, it’s because of the cotton candy phenomenon: all fluff and no substance. Uncover the missing ingredient to sprinkle in every date every time to keep them coming back.

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