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Why I Say “Yes” to a Same-Day Date

I don’t want to accept a date for the same day – I feel like that means he isn’t respecting my time and he’ll think that he can be lazy. I don’t think that’s how he’ll come to appreciate me.

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Why is Online Dating Not Working?

I get hundreds of messages, but the majority of these men (supposedly also looking for the same thing) pursue me and are really excited about me, etc. we exchange #’s, maybe have a conversation, then nothing!

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