Ask Wendy

Over-connecting via phone and email with strangers who then disappear is one of the fastest ways daters are driven off of dating sites. Find out how to avoid this from happening to you.

When we date someone new, we often forget to look at the whole package. Mostly we just focus on him and his potential. We forgot to consider all sorts of complicated details, from minor children to the ex.

Because we care for someone, we cross our fingers and hope we can trust them for everything that matters to us, including not breaking our hearts.

Finding good, decent, respectful guys out there is easier than you might think — I mean there are gads of them. But you have to be in the right place both physically and energetically.

Dating casually or dating for a relationship seems to be the only two options today. Maybe there’s another choice. Maybe “dating exclusively” doesn’t have to be on the table by date #3.

Sometimes asking “what happened?” is worth doing so you can grow from the relationship experience. But sometimes the answers just won’t serve you.

When a style or method you employ feels right for you but it’s widely promoted in the culture as not optimal, take a pause, do a doublecheck, and see if what you think still holds true.

If everything else about your date lined up, like your values, goals, and lifestyle, would this be a problem for you? There’s an easy solution for this!