He doesn’t talk very much about his feelings, instead, he likes to show me how he feels through his actions.
The problem is that I also have difficulty communicating my feelings at times. As long as I’m paying attention, it works, but sometimes I’m afraid I’ll miss something or I’ll interpret his actions the wrong way.
Research shows that infidelity has very little to do with love. It’s likely that infidelity has very little to do with the partner or spouse. It might, and it might not. Learn why infidelity happens by reading more…
If it’s impossible for you to be happy and have what you need without marriage, then you have your answer. That’s what “deal-breaker” means.
Not quite ready to go that far? Okay, we can work with that, too.
Remember when you were a teen and you told your friend, “you fly, I’ll buy”? They grabbed the burgers and fries so you didn’t have to get your lazy bones off the couch, but for their effort, you paid for the fast-food run.
This is the grown-up version of that. You fly, he buys—literally.
When we take the time to climb into our own sensuality, it becomes a natural part of us that’s much easier to access at will. Choosing to own our unique sensuality also has the added benefit of bringing a little more happiness and badassery to your life.
You may want to see if you can wait to address it when you’re no longer furious. It might take a minute, but the convo will likely go better if you can clearly state your needs without emotions running high. But don’t wait so long that you let it go—
When you’re new, he owes you nothing in between dates. He doesn’t need to check on you, see how your week is going, try to get to know you more—nada. That’s a boyfriend’s accountability list, not a new date’s, read more…
You (and your pubic hair) keep doing you. And know that sexy is a mindset, not a hairstyle.
The men you attract are not your ex-husband, so you don’t need to worry about sabotaging them out the gate if you’re willing to see them as new and shiny instead of as new manifestations of past pain.
Everyone has their own preferences and tolerances, which is a good thing because you are just the right amount of perfect for someone—many someones.
The Bay Area can be brutal. When the average cost of a one-bedroom apartment in San Francisco rents for $3,600 per month, desperate times can call for desperate measures—but that’s not on you.
Hey Maria, Thank you for all your questions. The way these questions are written assumes that men who watch porn or men who hire sex workers are bad and/or wrong,
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