Penis Size Is Not the Problem
May 2, 2017
There are thoughtless people scattered across the globe who say devastating things to others, and I’m sorry his ex-girlfriend is one of them.
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How Can I Tell Him?
April 28, 2017
I’d really like to see you let your new guy walk into your home with his eyes wide open to see what you really need help with because he’s actively offering to pitch in. If you’re unwilling, I still recommend the truth.
Can Couples with Different Work Priorities Stay Together?
April 21, 2017
He likes what he does, but he doesn’t live for work. I try to always take advantage of the opportunities that come up to build my career and these opportunities end up being conflicts in our relationship. Do you think we shouldn’t be together?
Sex with the Ex: Can you get over someone while they’re still in you?
April 14, 2017
I end up going back just to feel close to him—I cave into the crave. How do I stop?
Does Porn Play Out In Real Life?
April 7, 2017
A couple of months ago I found out that he was very much into incest porn. This is something he is extremely ashamed of. One night, after he fell asleep, I checked his history even though I told him I would respect his personal life.
My Boyfriend is Broke, Should I Keep Him?
March 31, 2017
Does he have a plan for paying the bills while he’s investing in his passion? Do you share similar lifestyle expectations? What’s his relationship with money? Has he planned for a side job that will help the two of you make ends meet?
How Can I Get His Ex To Like Me?
March 24, 2017
I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year. He doesn’t have many friends and his ex-girlfriend is one of his closest friends. They “share” her dog. He loves this dog and sees his ex like a sister. I don’t have a problem with that.
“What’s Your Sex Number?”
March 17, 2017
At the start of dating, my wife told me the number of men she’s had sex with was 3. She’s recently admitted that the real number is 40. How do I not despise her for this? She has been my best friend for a long time, but she has also lied a LOT about sexual things.
Do I Have to Tell Him My Age?
March 10, 2017
I’ve met a wonderful man who’s 36, and he doesn’t know I’m 35 yet. He hasn’t asked for my age, but I feel he needs to know ASAP, as he might want someone younger considering I look like I’m 25 maximum. I want a husband and a family, but I’m afraid that he won’t want me because I’m too old. What if no man my age will want me anymore?
Staying Sane During the Texting Phase of Dating
February 24, 2017
I really hate feeling ignored, and yet I know I’ve never met him, and he’s not in love with me, and, aside from all that, he’s leading a busy life. What’s reasonable to expect in the texting phase?
I Want Children, She Doesn’t, Should I Do It Anyway?
February 17, 2017
My girlfriend and I have been together for five years. Two weeks ago I asked her about our future and what she wants for her life in the next decade or so. She told me she doesn’t want to have kids.
BDSM Advice
February 10, 2017
My girlfriend and I have been together for seven years. From the beginning, I’ve been the dom and she has been my sub. Recently we had a heart to heart where she expressed she’s no longer happy being the sub, and instead wants to switch our relationship around and flip the power dynamics so she’s the dom and I’m the sub.
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