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Too Heartbroken to Date

Being in “good working order” for dating means you’re not heartbroken beyond words and you’re able to tell a story about a past partner without crying.

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How Soon Is Too Soon for Sex Talk?

When a guy talks about sex in the first few exchanges before ever meeting you, he’s letting you know what he wants—and what he wants is, well. sex. Listen to your creep-o-meter—It’s dead-on

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Audrey H. – San Francisco, California

Magical & Visceral

“Why weren’t we taught this in school??? This is right on and has already transformed my relationship with my boyfriend. It feels magical and visceral. Thank you!”

Kim A. – Sedona, Arizona

A Bright Future

“Thank you, Wendy, for your generous insight and compassionate understanding of men. I joined your workshop with my mother. We are desperately trying to break eight generations of bad relationship dynamics with the men in our family. I’m sure that we are on a different path and look forward to a bright future being happy and healthy in our relationships with all men in our lives. All my love.” Hailey B. – Seattle, Washington