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How Do I Deal with His High Sex Drive?

No one can count on a 100% libido match with their partner; plus, we all ebb and flow over the years. But each of us needs to consider this in the dating phase of a new relationship to examine if we’ll be a good fit for each other.

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Are We Compatible?

The things we discover in books are not immutable qualities or hard-and-fast rules. This is not science. These are not unchangeable differences you are stuck with or must overcome.

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Magical & Visceral

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A Bright Future

“Thank you, Wendy, for your generous insight and compassionate understanding of men. I joined your workshop with my mother. We are desperately trying to break eight generations of bad relationship dynamics with the men in our family. I’m sure that we are on a different path and look forward to a bright future being happy and healthy in our relationships with all men in our lives. All my love.” Hailey B. – Seattle, Washington