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“All These Places Are MINE!”

I am new to polyamory and my current challenge is how I feel when my partner wants to do things with his partner(s) that he’s already done with me, like going to a particular restaurant, or a weekend getaway spot.

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Is He Busy or “Busy”?

Does the guy I’m dating feel rejected by me and did I handle this conversation badly? Or is he just looking for sex or is just not the type to text while traveling? Is it a bad sign that I haven’t heard from him in three days? 

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Audrey H. – San Francisco, California

Magical & Visceral

“Why weren’t we taught this in school??? This is right on and has already transformed my relationship with my boyfriend. It feels magical and visceral. Thank you!”

Kim A. – Sedona, Arizona

A Bright Future

“Thank you, Wendy, for your generous insight and compassionate understanding of men. I joined your workshop with my mother. We are desperately trying to break eight generations of bad relationship dynamics with the men in our family. I’m sure that we are on a different path and look forward to a bright future being happy and healthy in our relationships with all men in our lives. All my love.” Hailey B. – Seattle, Washington