If his lack of knowledge/interest in intellectual topics cause you to lose respect for him, you don’t stand much of a chance together.
I’ve whipped up three courting phase best practices just for you, and for the readers…
Polyamory simply means having more than one consenting romantic/sexual relationship—so consent to her having her relationships. Or don’t. But the passive-aggressive thing that is going on here isn’t cool for anyone.
If your girlfriend’s attitude is one of needing to be your everything, then this is a red flag.