Why Can’t I Break Up with Him?
August 29, 2017
Ultimately, you get to decide who you spend your life with, and what you can and can’t tolerate for your own well-being.
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My Boyfriend Likes Kinky Violent Porn. Will I Have to Do These Things?
August 25, 2017
We are all entitled to our private thoughts, erotic fantasies, and imagination. What turns us on is no one else’s business. But when your guy wants to bring fantasy into reality, then yeah, it kind of is your business.
How Do I Get My Husband to Do Housework?
August 23, 2017
This four-part process with your partner may give you the house support you need.
Can I Find Love After Divorce?
August 22, 2017
Get the easy two-step process to finding love after divorce.
Is There an Online Dating Site for Men with Money?
August 18, 2017
You are entitled to want what you want and to not settle for anything less, but know this: If you go out and look for a mate on a site based on money, know what your dates will be focused on? Money.
How Do I Transition from the Honeymoon Phase to the Long-Term Phase in a New Relationship?
August 17, 2017
The initial zesty-hotness in any new relationship is a cocktail mixture of chemistry, newness and uncertainty. The slowdown doesn’t mean you don’t love each other – it does mean that you know and count on each other.
My Boyfriend Doesn’t Like My Family
August 15, 2017
If hanging out with your boyfriend and your family together is important to you (as it is for most of us), you want to tackle this head-on.
What’s Up with the OK Cupid Questions
August 11, 2017
OK Cupid questions! It was my favorite part about that site – besides the whole meeting cute, smart and interesting guys part, that is.
The Kid Conversation
August 8, 2017
There’s a whole lot of “new normal” out there, so a “family” may mean one boy and one girl, or it could mean being the guardian of two crabs, four (fat) newts, and a rapidly shrinking supply of goldfish in a terrarium.
He Likes Me, I Don’t Like Him, She Doesn’t Like Me…
August 4, 2017
Two solutions that are drama-free and kind. Enjoy.
Does Long Distance Matter for Online Dating?
August 1, 2017
Distance matters. A lot! Recognize that and be the voice of reason. You will most likely have to push through a lot of “give love a chance” noise.
How Do I Let a Guy Down Easy?
July 31, 2017
I don’t like getting stuck saying, “Thank you, and no thank you” when a guy is really into me, and I’m not into him.
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