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Am I Too Fat to Date?

Hey Anna, “Look, with my luck, I will starve myself, work out, reach my ideal weight, and then the next day get hit by a bus.” Do you want to know

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Does Being Unhappy Backfire?

Friday, October 7, 2016 Series continuation: What causes a relationship to go into a downward spiral? #3: Being Unhappy I’ll be happy when… I meet him My finances aren’t so out of whack

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How Do I Respond Online?

Tuesday, September 27, 2016 What’s a nice response to give when a guy has gotten a little passive aggressive because he read a question in your profile that says no

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Why Did He Disappear?

Friday, September 23, 2016 WTF? I started chatting with a great guy online. We texted, and I would hear from him several times throughout the day, exchanging pictures, stories, etc.

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How Do I Say I’m Not Interested?

Tuesday, September 20, 2016 What’s the best way to communicate that you’re not interested in dating outside your race just because it’s not your flavor of attraction? If you’re an online

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How Can I Spot a Player?

Tuesday, September 13, 2016 What would be warning signs of a guy who is not ready to commit or a player? How can I spot a commitment-phobe?  The real question here

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