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It’s My Wedding, Not My Mom’s…

Consider tradition and convention, but scrutinize the hell out of it, and after you’ve picked through the vows and prayers and Office-style goofy aisle dances, create something meaningful that reflects the two of you.

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Can Dating Long Distance Work?

An unfortunate aspect to dating long distance is you two can’t fully show each other who you are until you’re together (in the same place) for an extended period of time.

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Are All Guys Polyamorous?

It takes courage and conviction to come out as poly or otherwise non-monogamous. Trying to flip him might just be like trying to flip a dude at the gay bar (possible, but supremely unlikely).

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“This was without a doubt, life-changing. I had no idea that my marriage could be this intimate, fun and safe by applying what I learned. It’s been three months now, and our marriage is unrecognizable in the best ways possible. I can’t thank you enough, Wendy.”

Audrey H. – San Francisco, California

Magical & Visceral

“Why weren’t we taught this in school??? This is right on and has already transformed my relationship with my boyfriend. It feels magical and visceral. Thank you!”

Kim A. – Sedona, Arizona

A Bright Future

“Thank you, Wendy, for your generous insight and compassionate understanding of men. I joined your workshop with my mother. We are desperately trying to break eight generations of bad relationship dynamics with the men in our family. I’m sure that we are on a different path and look forward to a bright future being happy and healthy in our relationships with all men in our lives. All my love.” Hailey B. – Seattle, Washington