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My Boyfriend is Always Late

Wendy, I’m in a new relationship that’s an easy and harmonious fit in so many ways. I’m feeling safe because I’m choosing to trust him to act with best intentions. I want to live by the “no one is ever in trouble” relationship model you and your partner share.

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Do I Have to Go on a Group Trip?

Dear Disappointed, Wow, that sucks, I’m sorry! Let’s start with, “Am I wrong?” That’s a question to ask yourself when you’re calculating a math problem, or when you’re the only

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Am I Terminally Single?

Friday, December 16, 2016 Wendy, my childhood friend is having her marriage celebration a year after they were married. When they tied the knot, they didn’t have the money to

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How Do I Dress for a Date?

Friday, December 9, 2016 Wendy, what did you wear when you met all those men?  I wear dresses and boots, but I’m not getting many men and I’m not sure

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Is My Cheating Husband Gay?

Friday, November 25, 2016 My husband and I had a baby just nine months after we met. I then found out he had another girlfriend. I left. He apologized, promised never

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“Thank you, Wendy, for your generous insight and compassionate understanding of men. I joined your workshop with my mother. We are desperately trying to break eight generations of bad relationship dynamics with the men in our family. I’m sure that we are on a different path and look forward to a bright future being happy and healthy in our relationships with all men in our lives. All my love.” Hailey B. – Seattle, Washington