I end up going back just to feel close to him—I cave into the crave. How do I stop?
Holding your own space and not giving away your power means not collapsing into needing other people to manage other people’s feelings about you, and not letting yourself be driven by what other people think of you—that’s needy behavior, and you don’t need that in your life.
But I hear you, sister. If you’re jonesing for some over-the-top displays of affection, my pro tip on how to get him to nail it is to give your husband an actual clue. He’s not a mind reader, and I’m guessing his colleagues don’t address him as “detective.” Don’t wait for him to catch a clue, find one, or get it all on his own – he won’t.