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Are All Guys Polyamorous?

It takes courage and conviction to come out as poly or otherwise non-monogamous. Trying to flip him might just be like trying to flip a dude at the gay bar (possible, but supremely unlikely).

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How can I tell if he wants kids

How Can I Tell if He Wants Kids?

There’s a whole lot of “new normal” out there, so a “family” may mean one boy and one girl, or it could mean being the guardian of two crabs, four (fat) newts, and a rapidly shrinking supply of goldfish in a terrarium.

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