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Can I Date My Friend’s Ex?

“Hey, friend! Long time no talk. Funny thing…I met a great guy online and we’re dating now” This is how you start an email to tell your friend you’re dating their ex.

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Why Won’t She Take a Complement?

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about six weeks now. And she does this thing; she denies any compliments I give to her. When I turned 30 I realized I was bi and this is my first real girl/girl relationship, so that might have something to do with it.

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Magical & Visceral

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A Bright Future

“Thank you, Wendy, for your generous insight and compassionate understanding of men. I joined your workshop with my mother. We are desperately trying to break eight generations of bad relationship dynamics with the men in our family. I’m sure that we are on a different path and look forward to a bright future being happy and healthy in our relationships with all men in our lives. All my love.” Hailey B. – Seattle, Washington