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Does Porn Play Out In Real Life?

I feel like I don’t satisfy him anymore because maybe he’s fantasizing about his sister. I think he has some issues he needs to speak to someone about. When he calls himself daddy to me, is he thinking of me, or his sister?

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How Can I Get Her To Like Me?

Holding your own space and not giving away your power means not collapsing into needing other people to manage other people’s feelings about you, and not letting yourself be driven by what other people think of you—that’s needy behavior, and you don’t need that in your life.

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How Do I Get My Husband to Remember Valentine’s Day?

But I hear you, sister. If you’re jonesing for some over-the-top displays of affection, my pro tip on how to get him to nail it is to give your husband an actual clue. He’s not a mind reader, and I’m guessing his colleagues don’t address him as “detective.” Don’t wait for him to catch a clue, find one, or get it all on his own – he won’t.

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BDSM Advice

My girlfriend and I have been together for seven years. Recently we had a heart to heart where she expressed she’s no longer happy being the sub,

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Should I Believe My Husband?

A week ago he called me and said he wanted to try again. I was very excited because I missed him so much even though my friends thought he treated me like crap.

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