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My Boyfriend Still Lives with His Ex

When we date someone new, we often forget to look at the whole package. Mostly we just focus on him and his potential. We forgot to consider all sorts of complicated details, from minor children to the ex.

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How Do I Stop Attracting Jerks?

Finding good, decent, respectful guys out there is easier than you might think — I mean there are gads of them. But you have to be in the right place both physically and energetically.

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How Does #metoo Apply to Me?

Sexual assault isn’t something we should tolerate, but—sadly and infuriatingly—it’s a part of society’s landscape. #metoo is a wake-up call for all of us.

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