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Why Am I Attracted to Married Men?

Are you independent? Do you love autonomy? Married guys have limited availability, leaving you free as a birdie to travel, focus on your career, hang out with girlfriends, see other men, go to yoga class, shop, and generally not be bothered by the minutia of coupledom.

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My Boyfriend Has Friendships with Other Women, Help!

There’s no need to kill the love in relationships! Loving more than one person doesn’t diminish the amount of love we have to give. Otherwise, people could never have more than one child, right? But it is quite a different thing if past relationships are stealing time away from a current relationship.

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Is a Guy Gay If He Wants Anal Play?

The misconception that men who want anal play must be on the gay spectrum is a common one. But anal play and being sexually attracted to other guys are not necessarily linked. Fun fact: There are gay men who don’t like anal play at all.

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What’s the Etiquette For Paying For Dates?

Men get burned out buying a string of dinners for strangers who feel entitled to it, act ungrateful, and then never want to see him again. Women feel diminished, disrespected, and not special when a guy doesn’t treat. It’s a conundrum.

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