Consider tradition and convention, but scrutinize the hell out of it, and after you’ve picked through the vows and prayers and Office-style goofy aisle dances, create something meaningful that reflects the two of you.
Sometimes women get “I’m looking for something casual” when we come on too strong in the first few hours of knowing someone.
We are all entitled to our private thoughts, erotic fantasies, and imagination. What turns us on is no one else’s business. But when your guy wants to bring fantasy into reality, then yeah, it kind of is your business.