When Dating Gets Harder with Age
July 22, 2021
I am finding it harder and harder to commit to actual dates. I’d rather chill with the guy I know, even though he’s already told me he’s not interested in me that way.
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Butt - I Don’t Want To
June 17, 2021
I was very clear about anal being a dealbreaker for me. I’ve tried it. It was painful, and not at all pleasurable. He enjoyed it in past relationships but assured me that my desire to not have it wasn’t a dealbreaker for him to marry me.
Polyamory and the New Old Girlfriend
June 10, 2021
My boyfriend identifies as polyam and has felt this way all his adult life.
I never thought I could be happy in a polyamorous relationship because I get too triggered. Then, I accidentally fell in love with another guy (too) and now I feel like I can love more than one partner.
Forgiving Emotional Infidelity
May 27, 2021
I’ve been with my boyfriend for over three years. He cheated on me when we first got together, not physically, but emotionally…
Erections & Attraction: Why he might not get hard and what you can do about it.
May 13, 2021
I think my boyfriend might be losing interest in me. Last night, his dick was flaccid for the first time ever. I was just really sad and disappointed.
Are Men Predators or Protectors…
April 22, 2021
I’ve heard you say that most men would have a woman’s back if she needed help.
Why?
Will We Grow Together or Apart?
April 15, 2021
What are the signs of a guy who is willing and committed to learning and developing himself?
Friends with Benefits vs. Solo Polyamorous: Oh, the Choices!
April 1, 2021
“Traditional” relationships don’t work for me, so I would like to find a sex partner.
When the Extrovert Meets the Introvert (And Love Blossoms)
March 25, 2021
The new guy I’m dating is very outgoing and I’m kind of an introvert. He’s cultured and has traveled all over the world and has had adventures I couldn’t even dream of. We’re kind of opposites.
Why He Can Move on When You’re (Still) Emotionally Wrecked
March 18, 2021
My ex-husband met someone new in March. He and I were together through May. By June, they were a couple being introduced to our children.
Where Are All the Men?
March 11, 2021
I’m looking for ideas on how to connect to age-appropriate men.
“All These Places Are MINE!”
March 4, 2021
I am new to polyamory and my current challenge is how I feel when my partner wants to do things with his partner(s) that he’s already done with me, like going to a particular restaurant, or a weekend getaway spot.
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