How to Spin Social Media Flirting into an IRL Connection
November 24, 2021
I just reconnected with someone from 20 years ago. How do I move this from Facebook to phone to IRL?
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Bad Sex: Can it Become Good?
November 12, 2021
Hey Wendy, I am 75, met a nice man that has all the qualities I like, and then we had sex, and it was a huge letdown. No foreplay, no
How to Set Up Your Long-Distance Relationship for Success
November 4, 2021
Is it too soon to freak out and feel like I should be asking for more? Or should I let things unfold and see if it feels good or not?
When Giving Feedback Backfires
October 28, 2021
How do we ask a man to change something wonderful he is doing for us without offending him?
He’s Not Intimidated by Your Independence—He’s Put Off by It
October 8, 2021
Men say they want the “whole package” yet I’m still single. Help!
Why Everyone Thinks You Need Dating Advice
September 30, 2021
I have fabulous married women friends. Many of them know I’m on a quest to find love, and many have taken this quest on with and for me. Why?
How to Tell If Your Relationship is Toxic
September 23, 2021
I’ve been married eleven years and my relationship might be toxic. Help!
Gold Digger or Using Common Sense – Looking at Partnership & Money
September 16, 2021
I’m in good financial shape and I’m a bit worried about the financial situation of the new guy I’m dating.
The 3-Step Approach to Finding a Love Match When You’re Shy
September 9, 2021
I’m very shy and submissive. How can I find a domineering woman?
When Dating Gets Harder with Age
July 22, 2021
I am finding it harder and harder to commit to actual dates. I’d rather chill with the guy I know, even though he’s already told me he’s not interested in me that way.
Butt - I Don’t Want To
June 17, 2021
I was very clear about anal being a dealbreaker for me. I’ve tried it. It was painful, and not at all pleasurable. He enjoyed it in past relationships but assured me that my desire to not have it wasn’t a dealbreaker for him to marry me.
Polyamory and the New Old Girlfriend
June 10, 2021
My boyfriend identifies as polyam and has felt this way all his adult life.
I never thought I could be happy in a polyamorous relationship because I get too triggered. Then, I accidentally fell in love with another guy (too) and now I feel like I can love more than one partner.
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