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Butt - I Don’t Want To

I was very clear about anal being a dealbreaker for me. I’ve tried it. It was painful, and not at all pleasurable. He enjoyed it in past relationships but assured me that my desire to not have it wasn’t a dealbreaker for him to marry me.

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Polyamory and the New Old Girlfriend

My boyfriend identifies as polyam and has felt this way all his adult life.

I never thought I could be happy in a polyamorous relationship because I get too triggered. Then, I accidentally fell in love with another guy (too) and now I feel like I can love more than one partner.

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