Ok, so first off, thanks for providing the readers and me with this inspired list we’ve all heard so damn much about! And I read it to see just exactly how hot that water got for little froggie.
Verdict: I love, love, love these questions! I also love any guy who brings them to a date. It’s a tell about him; he’s interested in knowing you and willing to go deep.
But don’t let my opinion sway your own gut instincts or your process.
See, it turns out that everyone has (or will have) an opinion on your love life. They’ll want to chime in on how it’s going, how you’re conducting yourself, how your dates are showing up, what method, trick, rule or process you’re employing with each date, etc. Because people know, unequivocally, how to date right. They read books, they listen to podcasts, they’re sure of the rules and the best of the best of the best practices, they even know the one TRUE way to get courting done right. Except they’re wrong – because they aren’t you.
Society at large says there’s a right pace for dating a new person and a right way to get to know someone, and that’s taking it slow. Get to know them as a friend first. Your own history tells you that’s the wrong approach for you unless you dig living in the Friend Zone.
Whether you dive in headfirst or tiptoe in from the shallow end, you still end up in the pool. I say continue to use your own good judgment, and trust that your love life has ultimately always worked out the way it was supposed to. The person who’s best for you will like your style and appreciate your approach.
And p.s. Question #6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want? – Seriously? Is this a real question? Ha! Now I can’t stop thinking of how much fun I’d have at 90 with that 30-year-old body! I’d wreck that thing! I’d be taken out of this world at 90 while swinging from a chandelier.
Now go enjoy your life.