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Should I Buy My New Boyfriend a Christmas Gift?

Friday, December 20, 2019
Hey Wendy,

I just started dating this really great guy, and it looks like he has the potential to turn serious. I don’t know what to do about Christmas. Do I buy him a gift? He’s been asking me what I would like too. How do I handle Christmas when we’ve only known each other a few weeks? Help!

Susan R.

Hey Susan,

To gift or not to gift is a delightful dilemma to have.

If you enjoy giving gifts over the holidays, definitely include him on the gift-giving list. Don’t break your budget for it. Shoot for something thoughtful (maybe that new book by his favorite author). Even better? Give an experience, not a material object. Pick a fun activity you can do together, like tickets to a concert, sports event, or play. Or maybe if he’s a social justice warrior, give a small amount to his favorite charity and provide their “thank you” receipt inside a hand-written card.

Now, since he’s asking for help from you, you can make it easy on him by saying things like, “I have an Amazon wish list,” or, “Tickets to Cirque du Soleil would make me really happy,” or even something as direct and no-nonsense as, “I could really use a new pair of slippers, aren’t these ones cute? They’d make a great Christmas present from you! I could think of you every time I wear them.”

Don’t worry about getting him the epic gift to beat all gifts to win him over. Think “thoughtful token” instead.

Merry Christmas!

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