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My Husband Started Texting While I Was Giving Him a Blowjob…

Friday, June 28, 2019
Hey Wendy,

So, I was giving my husband a blowjob and next thing I know, I hear clicking sounds very briefly and then they stopped. I looked up and there he was, laying down, with his phone in front of his face and then he looked at me.

I immediately asked him if he was filming it. He said “no” and just laughed and said he was replying to a text. I believed him but then I asked, “I guess it wasn’t so good that you couldn’t just wait to do that?” He said, “no it was amazing!” No explanation afterwards, he knew he fucked up.

I’m waiting to see if he will apologize, and I’m wondering what he will even say to me... do I address this? I’m pissed, but I honestly don’t even feel like talking to him right now. He’s never been disrespectful like this. Ever.

Ariel B — San Francisco, CA

Hey Ariel,

 

Hmmmm, should this be a topic up for discussion around your house? What do you imagine I might advise? YES! This is not a sweep-it-under-the-rug-and-let-bygones-be-bygones kind of moment.

 

You may want to see if you can wait to address it when you’re no longer furious, though. It might take a minute, but the convo will likely go better if you can clearly state your needs without emotions running high. But don’t wait so long that you let it go—you have been seriously disrespected here.

 

I think I’d start the conversation with a question like, “Do you like receiving blowjobs from me?” If he says yes, and we know he will, then follow up with, “Fantastic. If you want them to keep coming, I’m going to need an eye-to-eye authentic apology for your behavior where I hear actual remorse in your voice, and I also need a promise that you won’t be on your phone ever again while we’re having sex unless your actual pubes are on fire and you’re calling 9-1-1.”

 

That is all. Good luck!

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