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I Like a Slut and I Don’t Know What to Do

Friday, June 1, 2018
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Hey Wendy,

So, basically, I’ve been getting with this fit girl, she’s so out of my league and seems to want to progress things on. One problem is that she is known as a slag. She was with one of my friends on the same night as we got together. My head says bin her off but my heart says forget it and go for it. It’s tough to bin her off because despite the ‘slaggyness’ I really like her and don’t think I’ll get any better. Should I bin her off or forgive her and pursue it?

Jerry – Leeds, UK

Hey Jerry,

You say, “My head says bin her off but my heart says forget it and go for it.” Jerry, that’s not your heart, that’s your dick.

Before we begin here, we need to take a moment to translate for our North American readers across the pond.

“Slag” is equivalent to “slut.”

“Fit” is, well…fit, and hot.

Okay, now that everyone is up to speed, let’s do this.

Jerry, mate, I beg of you: please don’t date her! I know, I know, she’s well out of your league, fit, you think you’ll never do any better, and she seems like the opportunity of a lifetime, but this relationship is doomed.

Let’s start with her side of the equation. She doesn’t need your forgiveness or your judgment. I don’t care if she shagged every last member of Manchester United the night before she met you. Her body, her choice. If she hasn’t made any promises to you, what she does on her own time and with whom is none of your damned business.

Next: I bet you’d say on a scale of 1–10, she’s somewhere around a ten hotness-wise to you. While this may seem like a full-speed-ahead sign, it’s actually the opposite. If her attractiveness is the foremost thing you like about her, then you will very likely do/be/say anything to get with her, and you will sell yourself out in the process. You will look past all kinds of things that you otherwise wouldn’t tolerate in anyone else just to have a go with her. You won’t pay any attention to actual compatibility, and you’ll get more and more miserable until you hit the breaking point all of your friends have been praying you’d reach sooner rather than later because you’ve become totally insufferable.

Lastly, it’s clear that you have no respect for her, Jerry. One of the things we need to look at when we’re picking people to entangle our lives with is compatible values. For example, do they have good judgment? You don’t think she does. You don’t respect her, you think what she has done is bad and wrong, and trust me here, these feelings won’t go away. You’ll most likely end up using what you consider to be her transgressions against her in the heat of the moment, and that’s a one-way ticket to an unhappy partnership.

So please, for her sake, for yours, for all your mates’ sakes, for the sake of the poor bartender who’ll have to listen to your sob story about the girl who cheated on you and broke your heart, don’t date her. Let her be with someone who likes her just as she is in all her sexually adventurous glory, and you can focus on finding a woman who, in your opinion, has better judgment.

Happy dating.

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