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Do I Have to Tell Him My Age?

Friday, March 10, 2017
Hey Wendy, 

I'm a single 35-year-old woman without children. Young guys hit on me all the time. I used to be a model and I keep fit. They all think I'm their age.

I've met a wonderful man who's 36, and he doesn't know I'm 35 yet. He hasn't asked for my age, but I feel he needs to know ASAP, as he might want someone younger considering I look like I’m 25 maximum. I want a husband and a family, but I’m afraid that he won’t want me because I’m too old. What if no man my age will want me anymore?

Carrie T. — Los Angeles, CA

Hey Carrie,

I was 35 when I started dating after a long-term marriage ended. I went on a grand total of 121 first dates, and let me assure you, honey—there’s no shortage of guys interested in 35-year-old +++ ladies out there.

Of all the things you have to worry about in life, this is not one of them. You can let this one go. If it’s bugging you, then tell him, but don’t act like it’s cancer. Say in your most upbeat voice, “You know, most people think I’m a lot younger than I am. Would you like to know how old I am?” and when he says, “Sure!” say, “35. I look amazing, right?” and then move on to the next topic.

I know many single and married women who are nearly a decade older than you who are opting to have children. I’m aware that 35 is the age where many women start to experience fertility issues, but this certainly doesn’t mean the end for you and your future family. If you have nagging concerns, share them with your OBGYN and see what your options are. Really, though—you’re young! You’re gorgeous! Get out there in the world and enjoy it.



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