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The REAL Reason Women Who Try To ‘Have It All’ End Up With NOTHING

Stop the madness!

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Stages of work and life of businesswoman


“I can bring home the bacon … Fry it up in a pan … And never let you forget you’re a man … Cuz I’m a woman!

The lyrics to that insidiously catchy 1980s Enjoli perfume jingle (and the brand’s slogan: “An 8-hour perfume for the 24-hour woman”) have stuck with me long after the scent faded.

By my early teens, I had already learned that, as a woman, I needed to go-go-go (I’m the 24-hour woman, right?) in order to “have it all.”

Success as a woman meant being a top-dollar breadwinner, a great cook, and an flawlessly sexy, attentive wife — all poured into a slinky cocktail dress that I’d wear while churning out award-winning articles with one hand and mouth-watering appetizers with the other. No pressure. Continue reading

Don’t talk. And talk. And talk. And talk. And talk…

When you’re Internet dating it’s possible to get too connected by phone before meeting. This is a rookie mistake worthy of avoiding whenever possible. When we do this, we get hooked, and guess what? Most men know in the first five seconds if they’re attracted to you (or not). The odds that it will work in real time for you and for him are much, much smaller than the fantasy of the telephone. Continue reading

Stalking Your New Date Is Never a Smart Idea

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So, you met him online. He’s amazing. He has all the qualities you admire and he’s totally sexy, too. Good for you. Here comes the hard part: After the first date, you’re going to want to…ah…” visit” him online. You’re curious, and you want to gather as much information about him as possible. You think maybe if you reread that profile again, you’ll learn something new. Plus, when you visit his profile, you feel connected, and that makes you feel all warm and fuzzy, right? Wrong.

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A Woman’s Secret To A Productive Meeting

Have you ever been in a meeting where a man just leaves? Maybe he doesn’t leave, but his enthusiasm wanes. Do you have trouble getting participation from men on your team? Consider the problem may be as simple as the difference between how men and women communicate and produce results effectively. Continue reading

Top 5 Dos and Don’ts for Online Dating

Your Profile

Use a friend, family member or coach to help proof your profile. They can provide valuable feedback for content and point out typos and grammar errors as well. You’d just never guess how many of us are sticklers for spelling, and shocking as it may be, some of us think a well-placed semicolon is hot.

Be out there representing falsely. Don’t shave numbers off your age, try to stuff that body into a different body type classification, or give yourself a big, fat raise. 5’10” is not code for 5’ 7”, yo. Seriously, do you really want to make someone call you on it face to face? Continue reading

What Do Men Want?

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A few years back I found myself sitting across a table from a professional matchmaker.  She asked a question I’d never been asked before: “What do you bring to the table?”

I almost laughed. Easy! I bring what all men want: a willingness to pay attention to them. But I realized she was looking for a more substantial answer. This got me to thinking… Continue reading