I’m attracted to a co-worker but this will never work. We see each other every day, and as I've gotten to know him, I can see we are in no way compatible for a relationship. I take relationships slow and he treats them like a sprint race. I want kids and he hates kids. I could not care less about having the latest and newest things and he is a bit more materialistic than me.
Logically, it will never work, but I can't let it go with him. I can still remember what he wore the first time I met him and the thoughts I had in the first few minutes of seeing him. How do I stop being completely infatuated with someone that’s not right for me?
SJR – Oakland, CA
Infatuation can range anywhere from delightful to unnerving. Whatever state you’re in, I promise you – whether you have him or not – the infatuation will fade all on its own. That’s just the nature of nature.